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Hello friends!
I know it's the beginning of September hey THE HOLIDAYS ARE NEAR! I mean, Halloween is next month then 2 months after that...it's Christmas/Hanukah/every other wonderful holiday. With me being in college again, I feel like my personal time has dwindled down to a very small amount, so I'm starting this project SUPER early to make sure it gets done good and proper!
If you're new here, last year I started an organization called Cup of Cheer Cards, or Cup of Cheer for short. This is in no way something that I have an LLC for or even a website for. It's not something you can Google because I made it up.
So what is Cup of Cheer anyway?
It's where holiday cards from all over the US get delivered to my house, I organize them, I attach a very loving letter that I wrote to each card, then when they're all set and ready, I hand them out to the senior living residents at my job during December.
These people are the light in my heart. When I did this last year, the amount of lit up eyes and "I can't believe this, thank you" spoken was truly awe-inspiring. Some of these residents have no family and these cards are a way to show them how much they mean to people. Some residents DO have families and still, these holiday cards make an impact.
I had a ton of people help last year and this year, if we have even more people, I would love to give 2 cards out to each resident! Each person will receive 2 cards from different people and if there is left over cards, I'll be reaching out to give them to other communities!
My goal is 290 cards (or more!) Last year we had at least 210, so tell your friends and everyone in between to see if they want to help reach the goal!
For those who are like "wow, you're job goes all out", stop right there. This is a Megan thing ONLY. My job is in no way affiliated with Cup of Cheer (I feel like I have to put that out there!)
If you would like to participate in making or sending cards this year, here's some things you need to know (and what I have learned from last year):
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1) You MUST fill out the cards. Please no blank cards. You can fill out a note, a message, or just your name and where you're from, but it MUST be filled out!
2) Do not seal the envelopes (if the cards come with some!) I won't be reading them, but I need to slip in my holiday letter.
2) VERY IMPORTANT!! These are words you CANNOT USE: Christmas (any holiday by name), any religion, or God
Words you CAN use: Holiday, snow, trees, plain winter words.
(With this one, I know younger kids can't help themselves. This is my work's rule, not mine, but if they slip up, no worries!)
3) How to sign your name:
To: My friend (or something of the sort. You will not be given a name)
From: Your name and where you're from (i.e. Megan from Illinois)
4) Please no trinkets or gifts, just cards.
5) You can get cards from Amazon, the dollar store, mainly any retailer out there when it's closer to the holidays. Or you can make your own! If you make your own, don't worry about putting them in envelopes!
6) How to get them to me, Megan:
If you have my address already, please address the main send item, whether it be a box of cards, a package of card, an envelope of them, ect:
Cup of Cheer Cards
Please DO NOT PUT MY NAME! If you do, I will open it thinking it's a personal card and it'll get confusing (LOL)
If you don't have my address, please email me at:
Mhubrex@gmail.com
When sending your email, please including your NAME and where you're FROM (just so I know you're legit)
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Please have your card sent to me by DECEMBER 9TH, 2022
If there are cards coming afterwards, there is a big chance that I can't use them.
Have fun with this, fill this card with love and kindness, and just know there are people out there who appreciate you.
It's that time of year again. The time I wait 365 days for (which is a lot, but also goes by very fast).
If you're new to this blog, hi, hello, welcome to my ramblings and adventures that I dare put into the 'lifestyle' category because I'm bad at buckling down with a niche.
If you're a current reader of the Megan Hubrex blog already, you might have seen these type of posts, because I write one every year. You can always look up the June/July section of this blog for past birthday posts, but I think last year's was pretty short. I was about 2 months into my new job, I was about to go back to college after 8 years away, and I had brown and red hair.
Wild.
This year is a little different. A little more comfortable and a lot more meaningful.
I always tell the story about how my mental health years ago stopped me from ever wanting to grow older. After 21 years old, I would be gone forever. I tried and tried and inflicted pain on myself, mentally and physically. Around 24 years old, after years of suffering, I found the right medicine for me.
Then, I suddenly loved birthdays.
A whole day to say "HEY WORLD! I'M STILL HERE AND I'M GOING TO ENJOY IT!" A day to shower myself in the love I have always deserved.
I'm a giver. I give until my money runs dry and my heart squeezes a little too hard. But on my birthday...everything is switched. And I would be lying if I didn't say it felt nice to be loved a little extra on that day.
My birthday signifies my struggle, but not really in a bad way. It's a day that gives me hope that I'm here to see the next one.
29 is going to be the best yet! Even though the year is already halfway done!
Greetings from the Ton
Err...I mean hello from Chicago.
Lady Whistledown said: "It doesn't matter where you are, as long as one has fun."
(She never said that)
We all have a bucket list (or is that just me...?) Mine are more extravagant, like "visit London" or "perform a stand up comedy show". But do these lists need to be so extra? OF COURSE NOT! So that's why I'm creating my own mini bucket list for this spring and summer of 2022. Just fun things I want to do or accomplish, really.
Let me tell you my seasonal bucket list!
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1) Have more picnics
I made my own picnic basket (picnic box?) from an old One Direction record player that never worked for me. I, of course, could never let it go, so I upcycled it! I ripped apart the inside of it and glued some lace I had into it. It's super cute and I'm pretty proud of myself but...I'VE NEVER USED IT! I love a good picnic and I would love to pack a lunch and go somewhere in nature. So, if you live by me and would like to go on a picnic with me, I got you ;)
2) Attend Summerfest
Yeah, this one costs a bit of money.
$25 for general admission and $25 for parking (yikes). They also seem to be selling tickets to get closer to the stages and that really defeats the purpose of us waiting hours at a certain stage to get as close as possible. Not cool, Summerfest. I'm too broke for those closer tickets.
If you don't know what Summerfest is, it's a music festival in Milwaukee, Wisconsin during the end of June into the beginning of July. The Summerfest grounds are one big strip of land, so you just really can't get lost (which I totally would, too). It's situated on Lake Michigan and there are a ton of benches to eat at and look at the lake. They have 11 stages for general admission tickets and a TON of music artists to see. I love walking the grounds and getting food and hearing live music playing. There's always one artist that I usually go for specially. One year it was Yungblud, one year it was Kesha, and this year it's Charli XCX. I always make sure that they're NOT playing the Amphitheater, because that is extra money!!! But my friend, Noe and I, get there hours early to get a place in the crowd (and as close as possible). Summerfest is MY Lollapalooza, just with less people. On the 2 hour trip home, it's usually 2 am and Noe and I are jamming out to music still. I love that part.
Always a summer bucket list item for me.
3) Buy birthday party supplies on a budget
This one is hard for me. I love a good Amazon and Etsy birthday find. I also have a party every year (you all should know by now that I love my birthday). I have a very small budget this year, since I'm going back to school in the fall. But, of course, my smart mind is adamant on having a party.
A GARDEN PARTY!
What is a garden party?
Here are some reference pictures:
It's really just a posh party in your backyard. Although, my backyard is a hill, so...a posh party in my front yard.
It's floral and butterfly themed and my mind is yelling "BUY EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING." I made a list of supplies I want, that includes table settings and lights and things of the sort. I had to talk myself down from buying too many expensive supplies and started looking into the Dollar Store for floral plates and Five Below for outdoor pillows. I'm going to upcycle some sauce jars for flower arrangements and decorations. And the best part is that it's a freakin' POT LUCK!!! (Thank you to everyone who is bringing food because I refuse to have cheap pizza at this party).
This is so modern day Bridgerton. I'm obsessed.
Oh and uh...this party is at the end of July. I just plan way too far in advance.
(ALSO, if you're reading this and you're a friend of mine, I can only invite 10 people to this birthday party. Please don't be offended if you're not invited: I still love you!)
4) Go to more Farmer's Markets
There are SO many where I live and I've been to one and that was last year. I would love to travel around and pick up some healthy veggies or buy some homemade candles. Shopping locally needs to be more on my radar. A short bucket list item, but a big one!
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I would love to hear your bucket list items!
Have a great day, friends!
Sexuality is a scary word for a lot of people.
Society has told everyone that the norm is to be heterosexual (straight) since the beginning of time. I’m being a bit dramatic on the timing there, but being heterosexual is what has been around for a long time and what has been accepted forever.
Then homosexuality (gay) became more accepted. Gay rights, free to love who you love. There are still people who don’t accept homosexuality because they’re still stuck in the ways of everyone being heterosexual. But there has been a lot of progress for gay rights in the 21st century (AS THERE SHOULD BE!!) and lots of slogans of “love is love.”
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity.
When I was younger, I always had crushes on boys. I was definitely a straight white female. As I approached adulthood, I still had crushes on guys but...that was it. Thinking of getting intimate with someone made me outwardly cringe. Most of my friends know about the guy in my early college career that I wanted to date. He didn’t even like me, he just wanted to use me (as I later realized). I refused physical contact with him, even though I liked him at the time.
As I entered my early twenties, I didn’t know what was wrong with me. There WAS something wrong, though, I was sure of it. My friends were getting married and having kids and I just...didn’t want that. I looked deeper in myself and then came to the conclusion I was bisexual. Women were beautiful, but no...I wasn’t attracted to them. I then tried to place my gender into my sexuality at the time (which was a soul searching thing and I had to tell myself later on that gender and sexuality are different things.) I was so confused because I didn’t like ANYTHING. I didn’t want anything!!!!
I then came across the phrase “asexual” on Google. I was scared to give myself that label because of me already thinking I was a ton of different ones already. But it really seemed to fit me. I told my mom about it and she was confused, of course, because being asexual isn’t “normal” (hello again heterosexual world!) and she didn’t know what it was. We talked about it and I was absolutely enthralled when my mom said “Yeah, I see that in you.”
“You haven’t explored enough to know your sexuality”
So, that’s when I stopped telling people. I kept getting hurt. I told myself I would never give my parents grandkids or a son in law or a white picket fence fantasy, which hurt even more.
Having sex is the only way this world turns.
RIGHT?!
(This is me inserting an eye rolling emoji because that’s how most people think still).
Why is me being asexual such a burden in other people’s lives? Yes, I still get butterflies when I like a guy (which is called Heteroromantic. I’m straight and have happy feelings when I like someone, but it’s rare) but no, I don’t want to have anything past that (which is the asexual part).
I just want you ALL to know: I can have a fullfilling life, too.
I have married friends who are asexual. Yes, you CAN get married and love someone while being asexual. Everyone is different and your sexuality is different from other people, too.
I went to a Pride bar crawl last year and I wore an Ace (short for asexual) colored bandana. I was the only one who was wearing those colors but I wasn’t judged for the first time in my life. A girl I know came up to me and said “I didn’t know you were asexual” and I had the whole “I don’t tell anyone because everyone gets upset at me” speech and this girl looked me in the eyes and goes “You need to be who YOU are. I accept you.” (Yes, I am currently crying while writing this paragraph).
Why am I writing this post? Because I finally want to say it all.
Is this my “coming out” post for my friends who don’t know? Probably.
Will I willing tell people that I’m asexual? Probably not.
I cry every time I talk about my sexuality. It’s not something I want (I’m just being honest) but I have to learn to live my life. I have to learn that I won’t be accepted with some people in that way.
I’m already a badass, I can only go up from here.
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I finished the book, Ace by Angela Chen, last night. Highly recommended by me! Click here to check it out!
P.s. If you have any (appropriate and non hurtful) questions about any of this, I can try and answer the best I can :)
I get a lot of questions about my outfits. Where do I get them? Do I spend a lot of money on clothes? And my favorite: how do I pull off all these outfits? ( I put that last one in because I get it a lot but it also inflates my ego).
I wanted to make a post on where I shop and give ideas how to be cute while saving money!
I have to put on here that I am a plus sized lady so I'm used to plus size clothes, but I will also be putting other sizes on here. I just want to be inclusive and write about all sizes :)
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SHEIN
A couple years ago, Shein was known as a cheap, overseas clothing brand and it really wasn't worth your money.
Oh how times have changed.
These days, Shein is still located in China but they have upped their game. I have been buying their plus sizes items for about a year now and 9/10 times, everything has looked so good and actually fit me. I am a 3XL right now and it's hard to find cute clothes in my size that aren't expensive. Until I tried Shein last year. I'm going to write some Shein tips below from what I've learned by shopping with them!
*Always go up a size. This is for every size. It's still a Chinese store and they still run a bit small. If it's a baggy item, you might get away with your usual size, though! For plus size, I would definitely go up a size.
*I'm iffy about Shein pants. Every bottom I've bought with a zipper never zips! I've even tried 2 sizes up once! I then bought a pair of pants that were stretchy and they were amazing. I no longer buy clothes or pants with zippers on Shein, though.
*Denim on Shein has never done me good. I have tried pants and overalls. Both times, I couldn't even get them over my thighs (and let me tell you, I have oddly skinny legs). I know denim tops are high fashion right now, but you won't catch me buying Shein denim (sorry Shein!!)
*The quality of clothes? AMAZING. I have yet to be disappointed with the fabric of each item. I've had silk, polyester, and cotton. Most of them aren't thin and the 2 items that were thin, I just wore a white tank underneath. They also are great in the wash, if you follow the instructions. I would air dry if you're afraid, but I never have and my items are all in great shape.
*Shipping is faster than you realize. I've bought some clothes and then they're all shipped the same day. The shipping email gives a long time for it to be delivered, but I usually get my items in two weeks or less! Each item is packed in individual bags, too, and I love that.
I need to stop my Shein rant. Here's some selfies (mostly from work) of my outfits for Shien!!!